Question From Jhilmil Rustam

Jhilmil Rustam

""Does he love me or it is just a time-pass? I met this guy on the internet 2 years ago. At first I did not like to communicate much with him but he kept on contacting me. But then somehow things worked between us and we became good friends. For the last 10-11 months things have worked really well between us and we are very good friends now.I fall in love with him gradually and 6 months ago, I told him about it. He said he does not want a relationship right now as he wants to concentrate on his career and he won't be able to take care of me the way he wants to.After that incident, circumstances led me to revoke my words and I told him I was just confused. For the last 6 months, things are normal and we are having great times together as friends, though he keeps on telling me why he does not want to be engaged to anybody right now, and how he will propose the girl of his choice after his career is settled, and how much he likes me. And did I mention, he is very much caring towards me. Keeps on doing crazy things to make me smile, even does not react when I am wrong, instead tries to understand me. Seldom do we meet, most of the time talk over phone. And recently he has expressed a desire to kiss me and I said NO, the reason i cited is that we are JUST FRIENDS and not couple. He seemed to be a bit disappointed but did not push the issue further and did not try to manipulate me. There is no change in his behavior towards me. I just cannot figure out what the truth is? Does he really like me and really concerned about career, or he just do not want me as his girlfriend and just want my friendship for spending some good time? DOES HE LOVE ME OR NOT? Please guys suggest something!"

Jhilimil, that is a very interesting question. From the looks of it I would say that this guy does have feelings for you! I think that he wants to have a future with you, and that is why he keeps telling you that he needs to focus on his career first. Before he can go out with you or later even marry you (if it works out), he wants to know that he can support you so that you guys can have a nice life together! If you truly like him, then I think that you should wait until he gets his career going and see if he does ask you out. Hopefully this helps! Wish you the best!

With great love,

Jill