Question From Kevalee Meyer

Kevalee Meyer

"Well, I really like this guy, his name is Rian and he is my friends younger brother (my friend is 18, Rian is 16, and I am 14) I have liked him for about two years and my friend knows I like him, is OK with it but doesn't let me at their house as much now, but now that its summer I can see him at the public pool, anyways me and a friend, her name is haliee, were at the pool when he came in she made me go over their and talk to him, we ended up talking for about two hours, resulting in him asking if he could borrow a movie, he walks with us to my house and borrows the movie. At about 9 Haliee wants to call him for me to see if he can hang out (today) while she is talking to him, me being all nervous, he asks if ill be their, then asks if he can talk to me several times while he eventually says no because now it's like 10, but says to ask him again because he is going to be at the pool tomorrow. It's tomorrow, he doesn't show up and, I get a sunburn. What should I do, he didn't show up yesterday, should I call him again or sit at the pool all day, with a sunburn and see if he shows up, do you even think he likes me.

Thanks for reading this long story."

Kevalee, I think that he was just busy. He probably was planning on going to the pool but he probably had to do something else! If I were you I would call him again and ask him where he was, but try not to sound too desperate. Then ask him if he is going to go to the pool tomorrow. If he says yes than show up, but try to put on sunscreen so you don't get burned again. Hope this all works out! Hope this helped.

With great love,

Jill

Question From Connor Wakeman

Connor Wakeman

"Well for the past day I've been uneasy, and a bit of regret from a dream I had on a crush that I never asked to go outwith. Long story short we met in the hallways of the school, and I asked her out. Going straight to the problem that has been bothering me all day. I've been feeling ill thinking about how it would of been differently if I would of asked her. I try to keep my mind off it but can't for some reason. I have the feeling depression because of this, I feel as though I wouldn't make it another day without her. Im just trying to find an answer to why Im feeling like this."

Connor, It seems to me that you still have a crush on her. You might have ignored the fact that you liked her enough to ask her out, but in reality you really want her to be your girlfriend. I think that you need to go up to her and ask her out, for closure. If she says no than thats that, but if she says yes then you can truly see if you like her a lot, and if you want to be with her. I hope that you figure this out! And I hope that this helped you!

Best of Luck,

Jack

Question From Weston

Weston

"Okay so here is the thing, I am going to be a Junior now, as well as she, and I have been crushing on her since the beginning of my Freshman year. She has told me she was crushing on me extremely hard since 8th grade, but we were shy at talking lol, I know I'm not very smooth with the ladies. I dated her best friend for 3 months and she tried to date mine for like 2 weeks, then we both realized we still kinda a thing for each other. Our relationship has been flirty but never has progressed. It seems as if we talk for like a day and then she's not interested and then don't talk for a while. She has told me she feels as if i don't like her. It bothers her that i dated her friend. But the truth is, ha, I never can stop thinking about her. I literally have her on my mind when i go to bed and wake up. I had a dream where we went on our first "official" date and we just simply were holding hands and she was kinda leaning on me during a movie. I woke up with a smile on my face just to come to the realization that it never happened. Best dream ever by far lol. I guess the ultimate goal of this is to ask how i go about pursuing an actual relationship. I am confident that she still likes me, i just don't want to go and make her feel uncomfortable or obligated to do something she doesn't want. I hope this all makes sense, i've kinda rambled. I know people are going to say you just gotta grow a pair and tell her how you feel, but how do i even set up the conversation about it?"

Weston, it sounds that you really like her! Why not just admit to her that you have feelings for her? She obviously likes you back, so I think that the best thing to do in this situation is to tell her that she makes you happy. Tell her that you want to be with her and that you hope she feels the same. Also tell her about the dream you had. If you don't make it sound to creepy then she will think that it is sweet and it will most likely make her want to go on a date with you. I think that you have to be honest about your feelings with her and hopefully she will feel the same way! You said above that you don't know how to set up the conversation with her, why not just go up to her and tell her. You just need to have 30 seconds of courage, which can lead to great happiness. Make sure that you talk to her in private though, so she doesn't feel like you are forcing her to say yes. Hope this helps!

With great love,

Jill