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Question From Dess

Dess

"Hi guys! So a few months ago around the end of april this guy that i like told me that he had a girlfriend even tho he still had feelings for me and i believed every word he said but then later found out he was "April Fooling" me and everything went back to normal. A few weeks later he told me again that he had a girlfriend and i told him that if he has a girlfriend he shouldn't treat me like i'm his girlfriend but he said that he would never love anyone more than me and that no one could ever take my place. I told him to stop doing what he was doing and then again he told me that he was joking. Now a few days one of his close friends finally told me that he really did have a girlfriend and showed me proof of it by sending some messages that he sent to her. It's not that i don't think he loves me or anything but he was telling the truth but then told me a lie. Apparently him and this girl aren't getting along and i'm not sure if they're still together or not. Do you guys have any idea what this could mean? Do you think he really loves me or Is just playing with me? Please help i don't know what to do :(

Regards,
Dess"

Well Dess, to me it seems like this guy likes you. He probably kept telling you that he has feelings for you even though he has a girlfriend to see how you would react. I don't think he was lying, I just think he was trying to see if you would respond favorably. Then he would take back what he said when you told him that you don't want him to treat you like his girlfriend if he already has one. My advice would be to just straight up ask him if he really likes you or is just playing with you. Hope this helped!

With great love,

Jill

Question From Destiny

Destiny 

"There's this guy I like and recently he has another girlfriend. While he was in a relationship with her he told her that she was the only girl he loved and wanted to be with but at the same time he was telling me the same thing he told her. What do you guys think this means?  

                                                       

Destiny, with true honesty I would stay away from him. It seems to me that that guy is a player and he just wants to be with anyone. However, there could be another meaning. He could really like you but maybe he feels like he is forced to be with the other girl. While I hope that that is what he means, I think that it is probably the first one. I hope this helps and I am deeply sorry if I am misinterpreting the situation. 

Best of Luck,

Jack

Question From Linda

Question From Linda

"My  mom doesnt think im pretty. Me and her dont really get along and idk. A day ago i took a really cute selfie and everyone complimented me. My stepdad said "you look cute" when he said that my mom says "oh she looks alright" and i already have low self esteem and hearing her say that lowers it more. And she always compliments my cousin and sisters but never me. I feel like she doesnt love me and i remember in 4th grade (5 years ago) she use to call me a fat lazy a** pig and thats when my self esteem lowered. I dont know what to do or how to feel soo please help"

Linda, (if that is your name), I am so sorry to hear this! I think that you should go face to face with your mom and tell her that you feel this way! Tell her that you don't appreciate how she is putting you down and that you already have a low self esteem. I would also try to tell an adult friend so they can help you out. I am sure that you are a nice, caring, pretty young lady! And NEVER listen to those who are putting you down. I hope this helps and i wish you the best!

With great love,

Jill

Question From Kevalee Meyer

Kevalee Meyer

"Well, I really like this guy, his name is Rian and he is my friends younger brother (my friend is 18, Rian is 16, and I am 14) I have liked him for about two years and my friend knows I like him, is OK with it but doesn't let me at their house as much now, but now that its summer I can see him at the public pool, anyways me and a friend, her name is haliee, were at the pool when he came in she made me go over their and talk to him, we ended up talking for about two hours, resulting in him asking if he could borrow a movie, he walks with us to my house and borrows the movie. At about 9 Haliee wants to call him for me to see if he can hang out (today) while she is talking to him, me being all nervous, he asks if ill be their, then asks if he can talk to me several times while he eventually says no because now it's like 10, but says to ask him again because he is going to be at the pool tomorrow. It's tomorrow, he doesn't show up and, I get a sunburn. What should I do, he didn't show up yesterday, should I call him again or sit at the pool all day, with a sunburn and see if he shows up, do you even think he likes me.

Thanks for reading this long story."

Kevalee, I think that he was just busy. He probably was planning on going to the pool but he probably had to do something else! If I were you I would call him again and ask him where he was, but try not to sound too desperate. Then ask him if he is going to go to the pool tomorrow. If he says yes than show up, but try to put on sunscreen so you don't get burned again. Hope this all works out! Hope this helped.

With great love,

Jill

Question From Connor Wakeman

Connor Wakeman

"Well for the past day I've been uneasy, and a bit of regret from a dream I had on a crush that I never asked to go outwith. Long story short we met in the hallways of the school, and I asked her out. Going straight to the problem that has been bothering me all day. I've been feeling ill thinking about how it would of been differently if I would of asked her. I try to keep my mind off it but can't for some reason. I have the feeling depression because of this, I feel as though I wouldn't make it another day without her. Im just trying to find an answer to why Im feeling like this."

Connor, It seems to me that you still have a crush on her. You might have ignored the fact that you liked her enough to ask her out, but in reality you really want her to be your girlfriend. I think that you need to go up to her and ask her out, for closure. If she says no than thats that, but if she says yes then you can truly see if you like her a lot, and if you want to be with her. I hope that you figure this out! And I hope that this helped you!

Best of Luck,

Jack